I've never talked to anyone. Aren't people who go to therapy weak?

No. Nope. Absolutely not! Asking for help takes strength and courage. No man is an island — we all need help. The more help we receive from family, friends — and therapists. The better off we are.

Does group therapy really work?

Yes, Yes and Yes!  Full disclosure —  I am a group therapy fan girl.  Because the best way to improve your relationships is to join a group.

At K&S we do psychotherapy groups which are a little different than self-help groups, like Alcoholics Anonymous, where everyone is dealing with the exact same issue.

Our groups have 4-8 people who are different ages, have different experiences and backgrounds. The major thing they have in common, is the desire to improve their relationships.

They’ve tried to work out relationship problems on their own,  but something gets in the way. Usually that thing is something that happened in your first group. Which is your family of origin; your mom, dad, and all the folks you lived with when you were a kid.

Most times you’ll repeat the same behaviors in group that you used to survive the stress of your original family. If you get aggressive in your family, or you withdraw and give people the silent treatment – you’ll probably do the same in group.

Someone in group may remind you of people in your life and bring up feelings and challenges that you haven’t resolved yet. And you’ll have a safe place and a skilled therapist to help you through it.

The last thing I’m going to say about process groups (for now) is they are one of the most cost effective ways to take care of your emotional health.

How does therapy work?

Lots of different things happen in therapy.

You’ll do a lot of talking, listening too – but mostly talking. Therapists have you talk about your feelings because it makes you feel better — and understand your problems. It also helps you feel accepted, understood, and ready to learn.

You’ll also do activities to help you learn about emotions, coping skills, or facing fears. We use activities to change things up a bit, so the sessions are interesting and engaging.

Something else you’ll do in therapy is practice new skills. We teach skills like mindfulness and healthy communication. And ways to lower stress, deal with a divorce or tough childhood behaviors. Once you learn the skills, we’ll practice them so you can use them with the people in your lives.

Finally, we help you problem solve.  Maybe you have the same argument with your partner over and over again. Or anxiety gets the best of you and you can’t figure out why. Or as much as you try not to, you lose your temper and yell at your kiddos instead of explaining things calmly. Whatever the problem, therapists work with you to figure it out.

What’s the difference between talking to a friend and talking to a therapist?

Don’t get me wrong, friends can be great sounding boards.  But what we do is different. We help you understand why you do what you do; and identify themes and patterns in your life that trip you up. Then we teach you how to change them.   And…we listen without judgement or criticism. There will be no “I told you so” coming from us.   We show you how something that happened in your past, could be causing problems now. We help you change how you think – this is important because how you think effects how you feel, and how you feel effects what you do. Change your thinking and you can change your life — we help you do that.

How much does therapy cost?

We have a range of prices based on the area of expertise, and licensure status of the therapist. Services range from $90 – $190 per session. We are happy to provide a superbill that you may be able to submit to insurance (PPO plans) for reimbursement.

How long until therapy works?

The short answer is it depends on: your goals, what you’re working on, how long your problem has been an issue, and if there are problems you weren’t aware of.

Will I have to take medicine?

Sometimes medication is helpful in conjunction with therapy. Most times it’s not necessary. Folks have strong opinions about medications. At K&S we believe – if you can live your best life, without meds, we are 100% onboard.  If taking meds gives you relief and helps you live your best life. We’ll support that too. At the end of the day, it’s up to you.

How will I know if therapy is working?

A good way to tell if therapy is working is when you start responding to situations that used to cause you problems —  differently – in a healthy way. Or your behavior changes. So, if you’re struggling with depression, and you used to stay in bed till 1:00  now you are up at 10 and going for a walk. Or instead of “going in” on your partner for leaving dishes in the sink for you to wash for the 50th time. You take a break, calm down and talk about later in the day when you aren’t triggered.